The Art of YELLING

I’m actually really amazed she stood still long enough for me to take this picture!
Yesterday was definitely a test of my patience. I loaded both girls up in the car to attend a Valentine’s Day brunch given by the mom’s ministry at our church. Childcare was provided, thank the Lord, because I really needed a break from Charlie. I love my sweet girl, and she is funny, but man…yesterday I exercised my lungs more than I thought possible.Yelling. When did I become this person? How do I find myself standing in the living room screaming at my toddler? Sometimes I feel like the only way she’ll listen to me is if I raise my voice and GET. VERY. FIRM. like THIS. She just wasn’t LISTENING yesterday and I had to tell her things two or three times. Just willfulness, plain and simple. That, coupled with Baby Ella’s bad case of gas…well, let’s just say I was a pretty frazzled mommy.So, how grateful was I to have $5 childcare for my toddler, all the coffee I could drink, great conversation, and a kind and lovely mom of school-age children to hold my baby for me after I had been pacing with her for 20 minutes of unadulterated fussiness?? Pretty grateful. What a blessing our mom’s ministry is!! I was reminded how precious these relationships are and how invaluable they are to me. I would surely go CRAZY if it weren’t for the sweet moms in my life. Amen? Amen.

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  2. If it makes you feel any better, you're not the only one who yells at her kids from time to time. I hate it when I yell at Ethan. There's no excuse, but I am weak indeed, especially if I don't get enough sleep, or hormones are crazy. You get the picture 🙂 When it happens, I always say "I'm sorry" to Ethan and ask for his forgiveness. He says "I forgive you" a lot!

    This is a REALLY hard time for you, especially with a newborn. But you'll get through it. You really will. Love you, girl…

  3. Amen! I really missed being at the brunch this year. I'm so glad that I have you and other great friends to go through these first stressful years of parenting with. What a blessing.

  4. Miss A you are a normal, great and sincere mother. The yelling comes because the children don't listen. They find out overtime how to push our buttons. Our buttons are the things that 'set up the yelling'. Most of the time the child will be enjoying all the wordiness (maybe smiling a small smile). They don't listen because they know it is being bad. This is a way to get attention. It is very hard to do,BUT try not to let the child find out you tender spot. This is easier to say than to do. You have to set boundaries and be firm about not going to far over board. Children no matter the age will try you patience. If you can start all this when the children are small it is easier. It is like sleep training; takes work and lots of it. The more independent the child it can be a job. My mother will say I was a hard headed human. Love your child and always give a time of hugging when they do something good. After punishment hug, hug, hug. I watched a mother cat with several kittens that was her strategy. Keep up the good work……Love

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