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For Today, July 30th…

Outside my window… someone is hammering.

I am thinking… that I wish it was ok to have that 3rd cup of coffee.

I am thankful for… my sweet and funny husband.

From the kitchen… Jennifer’s oatmeal cookies are the bomb!

I am wearing… extremely comfy pants and a maternity tank, very glamorous.

I am creating… a facelift for our blog.

I am going… to sit here as long as Charlie stays asleep.

I am reading… nothing fun at the moment…

I am hoping… to make it through these next two weeks…

Around the house… it is quiet.

One of my favorite things… listening to Christmas music. Wait a minute…you don’t actually think…I’m doing that NOW, do you???

A few plans for the rest of the week: dropping Charlie off at her friend Emi’s house to play, hitting up a consignment sale, looking forward to an amazing weekend!!

Here is a picture I am sharing… Charlie only a few days old…

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Little People, Big Emotions

Welcome to the world of toddlerhood. Today started out well, Mom’s Group and lunch with my dear college friend Joey, where Charlie flirted like mad and got to practice some nose-scrunching (something she lately deems as cute–and she’s right) and then it was home for a pretty decent nap.

When Daddy arrived home at 6, however, and attempted to simply put her shoes on so they could take a walk to Walgreens, Charlie threw the biggest screaming fit I think I’ve ever seen. Now, she’s had some major tantrums over her young life, but this one took the cake. She was so mad she turned bright red and was stomping her feet up and down on the tile floor. I couldn’t help but laugh when she wasn’t looking at me, I mean, it WAS pretty funny, but then when she caught me laughing she promptly stomped over and pushed me with all her might.

We let her work it out, and she eventually calmed down and let Vann hold her and comfort her. But then she proceeded to eat nothing for dinner except a solitary piece of cheese. She is refusing to sit in her booster (again)…just wants to run around on the back deck while we are trying to eat “as a family”.

This brings Vann and I to our current dilemma: do we force her to sit in the booster and listen to her scream as we try to enjoy our meal, or do we let her go to bed hungry, by her choice?

I realize that this doesn’t paint my sweet little girl in a very good light. She really is very funny, and increasingly verbal and will repeat a lot of things she hears (gotta watch that)…and is starting to remember her little pals names and gives many kisses. I almost wonder if she’s throwing these tantrums when Vann walks in the door to either punish him or get attention from him, because she doesn’t do it during the day when it’s just me.

All of this to say…I am attempting to find moments of laughter in the midst of the chaos…and maybe two weeks with her Nana (because you know she’s going to stay with her Nana and JJ for two weeks in August–hallelujer) will whip her into shape. We are using it as “making room for baby”/”hooray we can go to a movie” time, but for Charlie, hopefully the change of scenery/authority will be a major positive influence on her. Of course, “they” do say that kids always act better with others than they do with you.

This parenting thing, man, it is not easy. If I could drink right now, I have a feeling we’d be going through the red wine like it was water. Something to look forward to…

A Mommy/Daughter Day

Last Monday Charlie and I were in the right place at the right time and snagged one of the free passes to the Chicago Children’s Museum from our local library. It’s pretty cool…if you happen to be there when one is checked back in, you get it for a week and it’s good for free admission as many times as you want to use it!

We decided at the last minute to go this morning, as we didn’t have any plans and I had been sitting on the pass for a week…I wonder if this happens to other Mommies during the summer…you check one out and then never use it because you have so many other things going on in you and your child’s schedule…at any rate, the last time we were there Charlie wasn’t quite walking yet, so this was a whole ‘nother ballgame!

A Doozy

Man, today was a rough one. It started out ok…Vann took Charlie to church solo so I could grab a little extra shut-eye…but lunchtime through bedtime pretty much ranked up there with the worst days in terrible two history. I think someone once told me that parenting is 2 steps forward, 4 steps back, meaning, you think you’ve gotten somewhere and then you wake up and have to start all over again.

Charlie is refusing to sit in her booster again. She was doing so much better at mealtimes, but all of a sudden today it was like we were torturing her. Not only that, but after a horrible meltdown post-nap (or post-non-nap, as it were), she got her first official spanking. Yep, folks, we are one of THOSE families. Did it make me feel good to give her a couple pops on her bare bottom? No, and I can assure you, she didn’t like it either. She finally calmed down enough later to eat a little something for dinner and go through her normal bedtime ritual, but it was shaky there for a few hours.

Blech. This part is SO not fun, and while I am thrilled that she is becoming more and more verbal everyday, I am not so fond of the “teaching a toddler how to manage her emotions” part of things. Luckily, tomorrow is a new day and we get another crack at it. Maybe someday we can look forward to family meals being peaceful…until then, we’ll try to have some “sticktoitiveness”.

A Goodbye

We have one more afternoon/evening planned with the Jernigan’s next week before they officially move to Michigan on August 1st. I have really been trying not to think about saying goodbye, after all, Holland is only 2 1/2 hours away and totally driveable. In fact, we were just talking this morning about planning a trip there in early September to visit them and stay a couple nights. It also looks like they may try to make it back to the city for Charlie’s birthday.

I know that we will most likely be moving soon enough ourselves, but this season really marks the beginning of close friends moving out of the city and into the next phase of life. I always knew we wouldn’t stay here forever, and next summer will mark my tenth year since I arrived in Chicago…but I know that saying goodbye will be so incredibly bittersweet and I am prepared for many, many tears. Although I know it is the right thing for our family, I will always cherish the friends we have made here and love the fact that Charlie spent her first 2+ years living and “doing life” in the big city.

So I will try not to cry next week when I hug my sweet friend Jen and her boys for the last time in the apartment they currently live in. Having them around the corner from us has filled my heart with immense joy and I will miss the impromptu playdates and time spent huddled together in the living room watching the snow fall with our peppermint coffee. My saving grace is that Daddy will be done with school on the 31st and we will have him back on Saturday mornings for good. We will love having Daddy home, don’t get me wrong, but even his presence can’t replace our “Pajama Saturdays”.

Charlie’s New ‘Do

Our other plan for this morning was to give Charlie a much-needed haircut. Not only is it super curly and frizzy when it gets long, but it is too much upkeep to have to chase her around and attempt to detangle the knots every morning. It’s no secret I *love* mod haircuts on little ones, so after consulting with Ms. Jen, we decided to chop it off.

I had no distractions for her (a.k.a. dum-dum suckers) and was a little nervous that she’d cooperate, but it turns out that bribing her with about 10,000 fruit snacks does the trick. I think the finished product is so stinkin’ cute, I just can’t stand it. Now everything she does just looks ten times cuter than before…let’s see if it works for her when she’s throwing a tantrum or refusing to take a nap…

Pajama Saturday

This morning marked our last “Pajama Saturday” with Charlie’s dear friends Ethan and Henry. We love these mornings because we pretty much roll out of bed and walk around the corner and cook breakfast together. Charlie of course loves it because she can never get enough of her boys. I should note that today is also the final Saturday that Vann has class. Can you believe that a year has flown by already??

I finally bought her a pair of Crocs and she refuses to take them off. We were needing a waterproof pair of shoes (she ruined her See Kai Run’s playing in too many puddles) so they are a much needed addition to her wardrobe. Right now, this awesome website, Endless.com, has them for $19.95 with free overnight shipping and no tax!

Building Up My Endurance

Yesterday morning Charlie and I needed a desperate change of scenery so we headed downtown and met up with my dear friend Susan and her little girl, Elizabeth. It was so fun to see Charlie interacting with a baby–she wanted to give Elizabeth a bottle and share her graham crackers with her! Even though parking is expensive downtown ($4.00 for a 2 hour meter!) sometimes it’s just nice to be out in the middle of the city and showing Charlie all of the amazing things that happen there. When Vann and I were first married we lived between Michigan Avenue and the lake, so everyday was spent downtown. And, it didn’t hurt that Nordstrom was right around the corner at the time!

After our friends left, we hit up Galt Baby, a new store in the Bloomie’s building that Charlie LOVED. It’s kinda like a mini-FAO Schwartz, life-size giraffe in the window and all. Our main reason for going there was to “test-drive” the double stroller I am strongly leaning towards, the BOB Revolution Duallie. Charlie sat in it for me and we played with it, folded it up, etc…and I was shocked at how easy it is to steer, you can do it with one hand and it fits through a standard door!

My dear friend Emily from my Mom’s Group and I were discussing double strollers the other day and she had a Duallie and adored it…she’s also a runner and has inspired me to explore running as a way to lose the baby weight after our little girl is born. I’ve never particularly liked running, but I wonder if that’s because I’ve never started slowly and built up my endurance…at any rate, Ms. Kim swears by it too and I’ve been told that the weight just MELTS off…which is a lovely thought. And, not too mention after we move we may not have a gym close by…it could be a cheap and easy way for me to accomplish my goals.

At any rate, I’d like to have a stroller that will be compatable for jogging…and the Duallie is fantastic! It’s pricey, but as our one big purchase for the new baby, it will hopefully be doable, especially with a little help from our families.